I don’t know if it’s due to the holidays and the year is coming to an end, but the gossip in my office is driving me nuts! I don’t know how to handle the office politics anymore? It’s really getting my spirits down. I think people are acting nuts because bonuses will be handed out soon and there is so much gossip about people, positions, and promotions. How do I handle this negativity?
First, the title is a bit misleading, but you’ll see my point in a moment.
Your year-end observations are correct. To some, the idea of a co-worker getting a larger bonus and a possible promotion can bring out the worst in them. Gossip begins out of insecurities and can become a pervasive issue quickly.
Recently, while at a cafe I overheard office gossip in full swing. A higher up was gossiping to a new employee during their lunch break. The junior woman handled herself well, but you could tell she wanted to leave. This woman was her senior (not thee boss, yet above her none-the-less), and this was a promotional lunch.
2 Ways To Handle Office Gossip
1. Don’t Engage
Focus on your work, be good to others, and don’t be part of the pack. If you find yourself in a situation like above, learn from her and say as little as possible. I think she handled the situation well. On the other hand, if you find yourself at the water cooler, a table, or in an office where negative gossip begins, excuse yourself; don’t stay and engage.
2. Positive Talk
Positive conversations is the only way to go. Positive talk boosts spirits.
Here Is Why We Love Office Gossip
When you know who gossips; you know who you can trust, and who you can’t. Who to surround yourself with, and who you shouldn’t.
It reminds you to treat people the way you want to be treated. It reminds you of the importance of being civil and kind to one another.
Good luck Melissa, and I hope these tips help you navigate the water cooler with grace. Now, I’d love to hear from you. Have you been in Melissa’s shoes? How did you handle it?
With all my love,